RAD

Kathy Spohn, FCCI

RAD

Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)

Symptoms and Causes

http://video.aol.com/video-detail/cbs-evening-news-mias-story/3611301388

http://www.thelittleprince.org/symptomsandcausesofrad.html

Let the children cry no more...
Let us wrap them
in our wings...
Let us teach their broken
hearts to love...
Let us guide their souls
to sing.

Let the children cry no more...
Let us lift them to the wind...
Let the children cry no more...
So a new day can begin.

Copyright © 2002 Suzanne

What Parents of RAD Children Say About YL Oils

I love what I do, although I really wish that there wasn't a need for what I am doing over here everyday. There are just so many hurt kids out there in this world, and this has been such a long hard road for all of us. I'm just very grateful that you've (Kathy) been kind enough to step in and help support us on this painful journey. It's really good to have someone there at TLP who can answer OILY questions as they come up. I know that these oils work, but I can't always answer the questions of WHY they work. So… that's why I feel that we need you to be there with us.

So many of our families are using the Young Living oils now, and are having great success in calming their children when they are distraught and raging. I know that for myself and for my family, these oils have been a true blessing. In the beginning, it took me a long time to trust these oils. In my mind, I just couldn't understand HOW one drop of oil on the wrist could settle a child with dangerous and escalating behaviors, or how it could help some of these nighttime terrors go away. In fact, I was so skeptical at first that I refused to really even give them much of a try. Over the years, there have been so many people out there telling us to try this… and try that… and I seriously just assumed that this was going to be another big gimmick to waste a little more of our time and money. Sorry! But that's exactly what I was thinking way back when.

I have been reading and learning trying to find more ways to help my family. It's just kind of sad that I wasn't told about these oils years before, and that I never really trusted to use them until I sort of fell off the earth (so to speak) myself. Now, these oils are an almost daily part of our lives over here, and some days I can't even imagine life without them.

In the beginning, my family was just as skeptical as I was about using the oils. Some of them covered their faces and walked away because they didn't like the smell. My oldest son would pull his shirt up over his face and RUN from a room when I was using the oils. Some of them even got really angry at me for suggesting that they try the oils themselves. And then there were times when I seriously had to do the SWIPE AND RUN method to calm a raging storm of sorts over here with our youngest child. You know, the old SECOND HAND OIL trick that Kathy taught me. Hey, whatever works. Right? It didn't take the kids long to catch on to my tricks though, and sometimes when I would put the oils on myself while in the car, my youngest would say, "I know that you're just putting them on because you think that I need them." Ha Ha.

Now, my children frequently reach for the oils themselves when they are struggling. We have even been known to fight over some of the oil bottles when we were headed in different directions throughout the day. I solved that problem by buying ome empty bottles, so that we can all share them and all take them with us wherever we go in life. My children now remind me when the oils are running low, so that I can buy more. Sometimes they even get upset with me on those weeks when money is tight and I tell them that they have to wait a week to get more. And it's been really interesting to see them go from fighting me on this, to begging me to buy more.

I feel very blessed to know you Kathy, and to know about these oils, and especially blessed to be in your group. Raising my son has been the biggest challenge in my life, and although many other things have helped, and we've had the support of a few other really good professionals, I just don't know how we would have made it through these last few years without these oils.

Keep up the good work with your awesome website, and with what you are doing over there.
~ Suz

I have to say DITTO about the oils, especially about Peace and Calming for rages. Lavender also helps. I am eager to try Grounding. It is on my wish list!

I do not know what we would do without Release and Peppermint oil for our 15 year old at this point! Personally, I think it helps her release her fears about pain. We have also had great sucess with our youngest daughter with Peppermint oil diluted with olive oil as a topical rub when she was having lower abdominal pain. AND she smelled like GUM!! Never a bad thing in and of itself when you are almost 12!

We also tried Valor on a cotton ball in the car vent and another time, Clarity. Right now, I have a tiny clay flowerpot hanging upside down from my car mirror on a string. I put a few drops of JOY or Peace and Calming on it, especially for our long trips together the 7 of us. I believe it helps the attitudes in the van stay manageable.

I believe that our Creator made the plants, and so the oils from the plants. I have given up trying to figure out HOW the oils work, I just know that they DO and I believe that God has brought them into our lives at the right moment.

I have been able to personally stay off of my anxiety meds by using the oils. I asked God to show me a solution for Me and Mine and for us, the oils are a part of that answer.
~ A mom who 'just knows'

We have a bottle of Peace and Calming, which has been helpful for rages. I thought I might also like to try Vetiver. 'T' is 8 1/2 yrs old.
~ T's Mom

I thought you would enjoy hearing that this a.m. my 7 year old was pleasant but heavy into sensory seeking. He was just bouncing around, hitting himself, etc. I asked him if he would like a little Peace and Calming and he said that he wanted to chose an oil. He has just learned to read, and I had put initials on the lids of my oils. He spotted JOY and was very excited because he read it. That's the one he wanted!!! He then bent at the waste and pulled up his shirt. (Keep in mind that I usually apply oils to the back of his neck or his feet). I followed his lead and put Joy along his spine and on the tops of his ears. He instantly sat down on the couch and visited calmly for the next 5 minutes or so. We walked down the hill to the bus stop and he remained calm until the bus came.

To tell you the truth, I was a little concerned about his choice this morning. In the past, when I think of joy, I think of exuberance and high energy. From this point forward, the word has a new meaning for me. I guess in his little mind, joy would be feeling mellow for a change. Thanks Kathy.
~ Mom enjoying a mellow morning

My little guy was hospitalized for the last 4 days with seizures. I had my oils with me, but I was so scared, and he had so much in his system that I was afraid to use them. Today, I asked the neuro doctor if it was okay, and she said she didn't see why not. He was absolutely wild after being cooped up for 4 days. I have never seen him so crazy. He was yelling for Peace and Calming. He told me to put it on his stomach and his neck and I did. He promptly climbed into the bed and settled. Beautiful!
~ More Confident Mom

The oils have saved my DS from many meltdowns. I was skeptical until I read about another mom's little one and the results she had. I thought, "What have I got to loose?" I was amazed at how my DS calmed down within minutes of using the oils. I'm a believer! I can't explain how they work. I just know firsthand that they do for us.
~ Amazed Mom

Yesterday morning, my son started talking about this, that, and everything. All of a sudden he blurted out, "You know, Kathy really has helped me a lot."

That was WAY OFF TOPIC. I laughed and asked him what he meant. He said, "I used to be afraid to lay there in the dark and go to sleep in my bedroom, but now I'm not afraid anymore."

I asked him why he thought that YOU were the one who helped him with that problem, and he said, "When I was laying on her table, she made me feel soooooooooo relaxed and ever since she did that, I can lay in my bed and feel relaxed there too."

He went on to say that the noises no longer frightens him in the night, and he's just pretty sure that it's all because of his session with you. It was interesting to listen to him try to put it all into words. I think it's safe to say that he sort of likes you, as well as what you do. BIG HUG to you tonight, for all that you've done for our entire family. THANK YOU!
~ Mom of teen who is learning to feel safe.

We use the oils and it helps when my little guy is having a hard time calming.
~ A's Mom

We use the oils everyday. DS often asks for them when he has a hard time sleeping.
~ Daily Oilers

When my daughter is screaming and thrashing, the only thing that calms her is for me to hold her, sit in the dark, don't say a thing and just be with her. Recently I discovered that "Peace and Calming" oil helps cut the screaming time down. In fact when I go get the oil, she automatically holds out her wrists and lifts up her feet for me to put it on.
~ Mom of 11 year old RADish

We are still having great results. Thank you for introducing us, Kathy. The oils have changed so many lives here. HUGS.
~ MJ's Mom

Sometimes when my son is struggling and acting three years old (like tonight), I assume that he's got something going on and is stuck in the past again. I try to meet him where he is, and treat him like a three year old for a short time. Then, I usually use some oils and try to help him get back to age 16 again. Our experience has shown us that the rages often occur during or shortly after the age regression. So I think that's why I try to keep the oils going on, to try to prevent the rages that often happen when he slips back to those earlier ages.
~ Mom of 16 year old RAD son

Parenting is hard. Parenting a special needs child, or two or three is beyond difficult.
A handful of essential oils support what we are doing to heal.
~ Healing Mom

MJ has a new aide. Tonight she was raging. (MJ, not the aide). MJ had her meds, drinks, food - still raging. I used the Release oil on her palms, thumbs, bottoms of her feet, big toes and down her spine. Maybe overkill, but she calmed right down. The aide's mother is a nurse and she couldn't wait to go home and tell her about the oils. The aide smelled the oils and she felt wonderful, too. Thanks Kathy.
~ Raging Released

My kids are asking for the oils more and more. I can't wait to play with the new ones and see what happens next!
~ V

My daughter had been having meltdowns for three days. We finally got some Peace and Calming oil. After applying the oil she was settled in 5 minutes. So the oils DO work!!! She has been having a hard time. Hopefull things will settle down.
~ Mom looking forward to calmer days

Peace and Calming works quickly for us. Sometimes my son will even ask for me to put it on him.
~ Ready Mom

My dd's PT is skeptical about just about everything. I've told him about the oils and of course he pooh-poohed it. He was working with my dd the other day and she had a rage attack. I got the Peace and Calming and let her smell it before I put it on her. She immediately calmed. I think we have another believer. Thanks Kathy, for all you've done for us. I want to talk with my dd and ds's Developmental Pediatrician about having an informational meeting of parents with autistic children.
~ Convinced the Skeptic

I'll be glad when it becomes instinctive to reach for the oils. I always go for them, but only after we have all suffered longer than necessary. I think I'll try to remember first thing tomorrow to put on a little on.
~ Anointing Earlier

The oils are awesome! My little guy sometimes stops raging before I even get them on him. It s a relief for him to even see the bottles coming!
~ Relief on its way

For us, it is usually easiest to start with the bottom of D's feet if he is really dissociating or in a rage. I hold his limbs to keep him and others safe and to comfort him. If B is available, I ask her to put he oils on his feet while I am holding. If I am on my own, then I put it where I can. Sometimes he will settle enough to let me put it on him. I think he knows how great the oils are and he wants the help, too!
~ Mom with settled son

I remembered to reach for the oils before things got out of hand. I told my son I was putting Valor on him for bravery and Grounding for strength. I did and he settled right down. YEAH!!!
~ A mom that remembered

...to grant those who mourn...giving them...
the oil of gladness instead of mourning...

If you would like to learn more, or to sponsor a foster or adoptive family member to be able to participate in one of Kathy's CARE Intensive Trainings, receive a session, or to help them secure oils for their home, email Kathy at: oilsofold@sbcglobal.net

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	RAD Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Symptoms and Causes http://video.aol.com/video-detail/cbs-evening-news-mias-story/3611301388 http://www.thelittleprince.org/symptomsandcausesofrad.html Let the children cry no more... Let us wrap them in our wings... Let us teach their broken hearts to love... Let us guide their souls to sing. Let the children cry no more... Let us lift them to the wind... Let the children cry no more... So a new day can begin. Copyright © 2002 Suzanne What Parents of RAD Children Say About YL Oils I love what I do, although I really wish that there wasn't a need for what I am doing over here everyday. There are just so many hurt kids out there in this world, and this has been such a long hard road for all of us. I'm just very grateful that you've (Kathy) been kind enough to step in and help support us on this painful journey. It's really good to have someone there at TLP who can answer OILY questions as they come up. I know that these oils work, but I can't always answer the questions of WHY they work. So… that's why I feel that we need you to be there with us. So many of our families are using the Young Living oils now, and are having great success in calming their children when they are distraught and raging. I know that for myself and for my family, these oils have been a true blessing. In the beginning, it took me a long time to trust these oils. In my mind, I just couldn't understand HOW one drop of oil on the wrist could settle a child with dangerous and escalating behaviors, or how it could help some of these nighttime terrors go away. In fact, I was so skeptical at first that I refused to really even give them much of a try. Over the years, there have been so many people out there telling us to try this… and try that… and I seriously just assumed that this was going to be another big gimmick to waste a little more of our time and money. Sorry! But that's exactly what I was thinking way back when. I have been reading and learning trying to find more ways to help my family. It's just kind of sad that I wasn't told about these oils years before, and that I never really trusted to use them until I sort of fell off the earth (so to speak) myself. Now, these oils are an almost daily part of our lives over here, and some days I can't even imagine life without them. In the beginning, my family was just as skeptical as I was about using the oils. Some of them covered their faces and walked away because they didn't like the smell. My oldest son would pull his shirt up over his face and RUN from a room when I was using the oils. Some of them even got really angry at me for suggesting that they try the oils themselves. And then there were times when I seriously had to do the SWIPE AND RUN method to calm a raging storm of sorts over here with our youngest child. You know, the old SECOND HAND OIL trick that Kathy taught me. Hey, whatever works. Right? It didn't take the kids long to catch on to my tricks though, and sometimes when I would put the oils on myself while in the car, my youngest would say, "I know that you're just putting them on because you think that I need them." Ha Ha. Now, my children frequently reach for the oils themselves when they are struggling. We have even been known to fight over some of the oil bottles when we were headed in different directions throughout the day. I solved that problem by buying ome empty bottles, so that we can all share them and all take them with us wherever we go in life. My children now remind me when the oils are running low, so that I can buy more. Sometimes they even get upset with me on those weeks when money is tight and I tell them that they have to wait a week to get more. And it's been really interesting to see them go from fighting me on this, to begging me to buy more. I feel very blessed to know you Kathy, and to know about these oils, and especially blessed to be in your group. Raising my son has been the biggest challenge in my life, and although many other things have helped, and we've had the support of a few other really good professionals, I just don't know how we would have made it through these last few years without these oils. Keep up the good work with your awesome website, and with what you are doing over there. ~ Suz I have to say DITTO about the oils, especially about Peace and Calming for rages. Lavender also helps. I am eager to try Grounding. It is on my wish list! I do not know what we would do without Release and Peppermint oil for our 15 year old at this point! Personally, I think it helps her release her fears about pain. We have also had great sucess with our youngest daughter with Peppermint oil diluted with olive oil as a topical rub when she was having lower abdominal pain. AND she smelled like GUM!! Never a bad thing in and of itself when you are almost 12! We also tried Valor on a cotton ball in the car vent and another time, Clarity. Right now, I have a tiny clay flowerpot hanging upside down from my car mirror on a string. I put a few drops of JOY or Peace and Calming on it, especially for our long trips together the 7 of us. I believe it helps the attitudes in the van stay manageable. I believe that our Creator made the plants, and so the oils from the plants. I have given up trying to figure out HOW the oils work, I just know that they DO and I believe that God has brought them into our lives at the right moment. I have been able to personally stay off of my anxiety meds by using the oils. I asked God to show me a solution for Me and Mine and for us, the oils are a part of that answer. ~ A mom who 'just knows' We have a bottle of Peace and Calming, which has been helpful for rages. I thought I might also like to try Vetiver. 'T' is 8 1/2 yrs old. ~ T's Mom I thought you would enjoy hearing that this a.m. my 7 year old was pleasant but heavy into sensory seeking. He was just bouncing around, hitting himself, etc. I asked him if he would like a little Peace and Calming and he said that he wanted to chose an oil. He has just learned to read, and I had put initials on the lids of my oils. He spotted JOY and was very excited because he read it. That's the one he wanted!!! He then bent at the waste and pulled up his shirt. (Keep in mind that I usually apply oils to the back of his neck or his feet). I followed his lead and put Joy along his spine and on the tops of his ears. He instantly sat down on the couch and visited calmly for the next 5 minutes or so. We walked down the hill to the bus stop and he remained calm until the bus came. To tell you the truth, I was a little concerned about his choice this morning. In the past, when I think of joy, I think of exuberance and high energy. From this point forward, the word has a new meaning for me. I guess in his little mind, joy would be feeling mellow for a change. Thanks Kathy. ~ Mom enjoying a mellow morning My little guy was hospitalized for the last 4 days with seizures. I had my oils with me, but I was so scared, and he had so much in his system that I was afraid to use them. Today, I asked the neuro doctor if it was okay, and she said she didn't see why not. He was absolutely wild after being cooped up for 4 days. I have never seen him so crazy. He was yelling for Peace and Calming. He told me to put it on his stomach and his neck and I did. He promptly climbed into the bed and settled. Beautiful! ~ More Confident Mom The oils have saved my DS from many meltdowns. I was skeptical until I read about another mom's little one and the results she had. I thought, "What have I got to loose?" I was amazed at how my DS calmed down within minutes of using the oils. I'm a believer! I can't explain how they work. I just know firsthand that they do for us. ~ Amazed Mom Yesterday morning, my son started talking about this, that, and everything. All of a sudden he blurted out, "You know, Kathy really has helped me a lot." That was WAY OFF TOPIC. I laughed and asked him what he meant. He said, "I used to be afraid to lay there in the dark and go to sleep in my bedroom, but now I'm not afraid anymore." I asked him why he thought that YOU were the one who helped him with that problem, and he said, "When I was laying on her table, she made me feel soooooooooo relaxed and ever since she did that, I can lay in my bed and feel relaxed there too." He went on to say that the noises no longer frightens him in the night, and he's just pretty sure that it's all because of his session with you. It was interesting to listen to him try to put it all into words. I think it's safe to say that he sort of likes you, as well as what you do. BIG HUG to you tonight, for all that you've done for our entire family. THANK YOU! ~ Mom of teen who is learning to feel safe. We use the oils and it helps when my little guy is having a hard time calming. ~ A's Mom We use the oils everyday. DS often asks for them when he has a hard time sleeping. ~ Daily Oilers When my daughter is screaming and thrashing, the only thing that calms her is for me to hold her, sit in the dark, don't say a thing and just be with her. Recently I discovered that "Peace and Calming" oil helps cut the screaming time down. In fact when I go get the oil, she automatically holds out her wrists and lifts up her feet for me to put it on. ~ Mom of 11 year old RADish We are still having great results. Thank you for introducing us, Kathy. The oils have changed so many lives here. HUGS. ~ MJ's Mom Sometimes when my son is struggling and acting three years old (like tonight), I assume that he's got something going on and is stuck in the past again. I try to meet him where he is, and treat him like a three year old for a short time. Then, I usually use some oils and try to help him get back to age 16 again. Our experience has shown us that the rages often occur during or shortly after the age regression. So I think that's why I try to keep the oils going on, to try to prevent the rages that often happen when he slips back to those earlier ages. ~ Mom of 16 year old RAD son Parenting is hard. Parenting a special needs child, or two or three is beyond difficult. A handful of essential oils support what we are doing to heal. ~ Healing Mom MJ has a new aide. Tonight she was raging. (MJ, not the aide). MJ had her meds, drinks, food - still raging. I used the Release oil on her palms, thumbs, bottoms of her feet, big toes and down her spine. Maybe overkill, but she calmed right down. The aide's mother is a nurse and she couldn't wait to go home and tell her about the oils. The aide smelled the oils and she felt wonderful, too. Thanks Kathy. ~ Raging Released My kids are asking for the oils more and more. I can't wait to play with the new ones and see what happens next! ~ V My daughter had been having meltdowns for three days. We finally got some Peace and Calming oil. After applying the oil she was settled in 5 minutes. So the oils DO work!!! She has been having a hard time. Hopefull things will settle down. ~ Mom looking forward to calmer days Peace and Calming works quickly for us. Sometimes my son will even ask for me to put it on him. ~ Ready Mom My dd's PT is skeptical about just about everything. I've told him about the oils and of course he pooh-poohed it. He was working with my dd the other day and she had a rage attack. I got the Peace and Calming and let her smell it before I put it on her. She immediately calmed. I think we have another believer. Thanks Kathy, for all you've done for us. I want to talk with my dd and ds's Developmental Pediatrician about having an informational meeting of parents with autistic children. ~ Convinced the Skeptic I'll be glad when it becomes instinctive to reach for the oils. I always go for them, but only after we have all suffered longer than necessary. I think I'll try to remember first thing tomorrow to put on a little on. ~ Anointing Earlier The oils are awesome! My little guy sometimes stops raging before I even get them on him. It s a relief for him to even see the bottles coming! ~ Relief on its way For us, it is usually easiest to start with the bottom of D's feet if he is really dissociating or in a rage. I hold his limbs to keep him and others safe and to comfort him. If B is available, I ask her to put he oils on his feet while I am holding. If I am on my own, then I put it where I can. Sometimes he will settle enough to let me put it on him. I think he knows how great the oils are and he wants the help, too! ~ Mom with settled son I remembered to reach for the oils before things got out of hand. I told my son I was putting Valor on him for bravery and Grounding for strength. I did and he settled right down. YEAH!!! ~ A mom that remembered ...to grant those who mourn...giving them... the oil of gladness instead of mourning... If you would like to learn more, or to sponsor a foster or adoptive family member to be able to participate in one of Kathy's CARE Intensive Trainings, receive a session, or to help them secure oils for their home, email Kathy at: oilsofold@sbcglobal.net To Order: Connect with the person who referred you to this website, or You may purchase YL Oils online here: www.youngliving.com/oilsofold Kathy Spohn, #161308 For Young Living Ordering Made Easy, visit: http://oilsofold.abmp.com/orderingoils.html

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